How does divorce impact children caught in the middle? Johns Hopkins University sociologist, Andrew J. Cherlin, explores this pivotal question in his book, The Marriage-Go-Round: The State of Marriage and Family in America Today. Cherlin’s work provides insightful research on the effects of divorce and family dynamics in the U.S., shedding light on how divorce changes family structures and impacts children’s well-being in the long term.
How Children Experience Divorce: The Conventional Wisdom vs. the New Wisdom
The conventional wisdom about divorce is straightforward: separation harms children, at least in the short term. This notion is intuitive, as family breakups often lead to disrupted routines, emotional hurt, and conflicts between parents, leaving children neglected. In an effort to “fix” the situation, some parents try to repartner quickly, hoping to provide new father or mother figures for their children.
However, Cherlin’s research suggests that rushing into new relationships may be harmful. He explains that the constant introduction of new partners into a child’s life, referred to as “relationship churn,” can create more harm than good. Stability is crucial for children’s well-being, and the number of new partners entering the home may be more detrimental than whether the parents stay married.
Easing the Divorce Process for Children
Divorce may be the best decision for a family, but it’s important to remember that it can still be a challenging experience for children. To ease the transition:
- Maintain a patient and positive attitude.
- Speak neutrally about family members.
- Seek counseling or other forms of support.
These steps can help children adjust more smoothly to the changes that divorce brings.
Legal Support During Divorce
Navigating the legal complexities of divorce while caring for children can be overwhelming. If you need assistance, contact DiPietro Law Group, PLLC to schedule a consultation and explore your options.
