Just as museums carefully curate their collections by adding valuable pieces and removing those that no longer serve their purpose—a process known as deaccessioning—divorcees can adopt this principle to streamline their lives after separation. While splitting household items is a common part of the divorce process, many people feel the need to pare down belongings even after the official division of property. This helps create a fresh start by removing items tied to negative memories or emotions.
The extent of your deaccessioning process will depend on your circumstances. Moving from a spacious home to a small apartment requires a more immediate downsizing effort than simply decluttering an existing space for emotional reasons. Here are some strategies to help you simplify and remove unnecessary belongings after a divorce:
1. Embrace the Kondo Method
Marie Kondo’s famous approach to tidying up asks one central question: Does this item spark joy? If it doesn’t, let it go. Divorce often leaves people with belongings that bring more sadness than joy. Going through each item, reflecting on how it makes you feel, and discarding anything that evokes negative emotions or ambivalence can be a powerful way to start fresh.
2. Sell Valuable, But Unwanted Items
When museums deaccession artifacts, they don’t simply throw them away—they find new homes for them. You can do the same. Items that no longer serve you may have value to others. Try selling your unwanted things at consignment shops, online marketplaces, or yard sales. Alternatively, donate items and take advantage of any available tax deductions.
3. Consider Swapping
Museums often swap artifacts with other institutions to refresh their collections. You can replicate this strategy by trading items with friends or attending local swap events. For example, private swaps with friends can be fun and rewarding, or you might look for events like the Women’s Clothing Exchange of Baltimore for a larger-scale exchange.
4. Donate With Purpose
If selling or swapping isn’t an option, consider donating unwanted items to charities that align with your values. This gives your belongings new life and provides a sense of fulfillment knowing they’re going to someone in need. Plus, you may benefit from charitable tax deductions.
5. Focus on What You Need
When downsizing, particularly after a divorce, it’s important to focus on what will truly enhance your new life. Keep only what is necessary for your current living situation and goals. If you’re moving to a smaller space, prioritize items that are functional and meaningful.
Start Fresh After Divorce
Deaccessioning is a valuable way to clear out physical and emotional clutter after a divorce. As you simplify your belongings and your life, the experienced attorneys at DiPietro Family Law Group can help simplify the legal process. Whether you’re just starting your divorce or need guidance post-divorce, we’re here to support you.
Contact us today for compassionate and personalized legal advice.
